Relationship Wheel

if physical = blue
and if intellectual = yellow
and if emotional = red


then

intellectual+ emotional = platonic (orange)

emotional+ physical = romantic (purple)

physical+ intellectual = erotic (green)

love= add white

hate= add black

All men are bottoms

All men are bottoms - they have prostates. They sure ain't bein tops if the sales of viagra and cialis mean anything - nobody can get it up!

policy hypocrisy

ironic observation of the day: the supreme court cites other nations' courts for a ruling, and it's seen as activist by republicans. the federal reserve openly colludes with europeans "fed chiefs" and its seen as a brilliant economic policy

Gay is not a noun!

The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth EditionCopyright © 2006 by Houghton Mifflin Company.

Usage Note: The word gay is now standard in its use to refer to people whose orientation is to the same sex, in large part because it is the term that most gay people prefer in referring to themselves. Gay is distinguished from homosexual primarily by the emphasis it places on the cultural and social aspects of homosexuality as opposed to sexual practice. Many writers reserve gay for males, but the word is also used to refer to both sexes; when the intended meaning is not clear in the context, the phrase gay and lesbian may be used. Gay is often considered objectionable when used as a noun to refer to particular individuals, as in There were two gays on the panel; here phrasing such as Two members of the panel were gay should be used instead. But there is no objection to the use of the noun in the plural to refer collectively either to gay men or to gay men and lesbians, so long as it is clear whether men alone or both men and women are being discussed. See Usage Note at homosexual.

12 steps and beyond!

So, we're all at least peripherally aware of there being "12 Steps" in "12 Step Programs" like AA and NA, right? Having worked in coffeehouses for years, which are the bars of the Sober community, I've discovered there are a few extra steps that you won't find in any book on a person who is a friend of Bill. But for those of us outside of this world, here they are, revealed, for the very first time.

The 13th Step is when you start sleeping with everyone else in the program.

The 14th Step is when you start accusing everyone around you with having the very same addiction that you just got Sober over.

The 15th Step is to start using in moderation again, wondering why it took 14 steps to get back to where you were when you first started and hadn't lost control.

With love,

to all of the customers and friends in the Sober world.

Stupid Laws! and Smoking Bans!

Saw this link and thought I'd present it here. Later today I'll present my arguments against the smoking bans sweeping the nation. But keep in mind as you read these, that smoking bans are just as meddling, no matter how good the intent, as some of these stupid laws down here. I'm sure they may have thought they had a good reason to pass these laws at the time, but in retrospect, they're pretty fucking stupid aren't they?

Chatting rules

Here are the guidelines and rules for chatting online that I have compiled over the years. It's a working document, and needs to be organized a little better. Comments and suggestions are welcome.

1. Treat people in a chat room as though they are standing in front of you. The internet is not an excuse for abandoning the basic rules of social etiquette.
   
2. If somebody pvts (i.e. privates, or IMs (instant messages) you, acknowledge it, even if they are rude, not your type, or cruising when you are not. If they are being rude, play the higher ground and *politely* inform them of that. If they are not your type, that's fine, just say "Not my type, thanks If they are cruising and you are not, just say "Not looking, thanks
   
3. If somebody is not answering your pvt, presume they are not sitting in front of the computer. Try again later, but make it a minimum of five minutes before you do.
   
4. If you are going to pvt somebody, please have a topic of conversation in mind. Don't expect them to carry the conversation. After all, you pvted THEM, not the other way around. It's your responsibility to maintain the relationship.
   
5. The first person in a chat room argument that resorts to personally insulting somebody as opposed to debating the actual topic at hand automatically loses.
   
6. There is actually a very clear definition of an opinion: A belief or conclusion held with confidence but not substantiated by positive knowledge or proof. Please note the difference, as somebody telling you that you are wrong about something is not necessarily stating an opinion. They may be correcting your incorrect facts, or lack of any.
   
7. Compliments are a dime a dozen. Don't presume you will win over somebody's undying gratitude for telling him he is attractive - if he really is cute, it's doubtful you're the first person to tell him so. Either acknowledge that the compliment was all you had to say to him, or refer to rule 4 above.
   
8. Don't be afraid to give somebody a compliment. Everybody needs self-reassurance once in a while.
   
9. Take compliments gracefully. When you're 50, they come fewer and far between.
   
10. Insulting somebody merely over his HIV status is NEVER EVER cool. Never wish somebody to catch AIDS - karma will bite you in the ass most likely.
    
11. Never talk about your tricks in the chat room by name: screen name or real name.
    
12. Never talk about somebody else's tricks in a chat room.
    
13. Criticizing others' unattractiveness is never appropriate. You're ugly to plenty of people in the room too.
    
14. Old age and treachery will outdo youth and skill every time.
    
15. Don't pvt somebody with the intentions of hooking up with them if you are clearly NOT their type according the profile they filled out.
    
16. Don't ever presume that you are going to be the exception to the rule. If you were the exception to the rule, chances are that guy would have pvted you by now.
    
17. Don't be a hypocrite. Don't hold people to a standard that you wouldn't follow yourself.
    
18. It's never cool to insult anybody over the things that you find protected in the Bill of Rights.
    
19. It's not your duty or a good thing to talk about somebody else's venereal diseases in a chat room. It's everybody's duty to be aware of safer sex, and frequent testing, to avoid them in the first place.
    
20. A winking smiley face [ ;-) ] indicates sarcasm. Be aware that sarcasm doesn't work on everybody.
    
21. Face pics are not a requirement for general chat. But you should be expected to have one to meet somebody for a sexual liaison.
    
22. Don't lie about your stats - they'll only find out in the end what a pathetic loser you are for lying.
    
23. Arguing the definition of a word is pointless, as everybody has a different connotation of words. Find out what they intended to say instead, and state what you intended by the usage. Dictionaries are not rulebooks of definitions, they *reflect* usage.
    
24. Don't presume that somebody is pvting you to hook up. They may actually like your mind and are looking to make a new friend. After all, chat rooms were created to bring together people that wanted to meet and converse, not for hookups.
    
25. Don't endlessly repeat the same solicitation (i.e. begging) for the type of guy with whom you'd like to hook up. Chances are, 90% of the room saw it the first 6 times, and you should be putting it into your chat bio and profile anyway.
    
26. In fact, if you follow presumptive rules 3 and 1, soliciting in the chat room is beating a dead horse. If people aren't pvting you, it's because they don't want you. Everybody is usually just sitting there scanning profiles anyway.
    
27. Anything stated in a public chat room is open for discussion, criticism, or derision. You have no right to tell somebody to butt out. Be aware that anything stated in response to a comment may violate rule 6 above however.

A good quote

I heard a great quote today from a chatroom, and here it is:

12/14/2004 1:29:40 PM: {strapgui}

Momma always said...

"Lil' Strap, a gay chat room is like a black and white movie...all ya need is a few good lines...and a great profile..."

completely unoriginal

So I decided to restart my blog with something completely UNoriginal. The ironic thing is that I found this on a dudesnude.com profile, above a very hung man boinking various butts. Gotta love liberty today. Keep in mind, I was a (libertarian) Republican until 2004, so I really love this:

Things you have to believe to be a Republican today:

1. Jesus loves you, and shares your hatred of homosexuals and Hillary Clinton.
2. Saddam was a good guy when Reagan armed him, a bad guy when Bush's daddy made war on him, a good guy when Cheney did business with him and a bad guy when Bush needed a "we can't find Bin Laden" diversion.
3. Trade with Cuba is wrong because the country is Communist, but trade with China and Vietnam is vital to a spirit of international harmony.
4. A woman can't be trusted with decisions about her own body, but multinational corporations can make decisions affecting all mankindwithout regulation.
5. The best way to improve military morale is to praise the troops in speeches while slashing veterans' benefits and combat pay.
6. If condoms are kept out of schools, adolescents won't have sex.
7. A good way to fight terrorism is to belittle our long-time allies,then demand their cooperation and money.
8. Providing health care to all Iraqis is sound policy. Providing health care to all Americans is socialism.
9. HMOs and insurance companies have the best interests of the public at heart.
10. Global warming and tobacco's link to cancer are junk science, butCreationism should be taught in schools.
11. A president lying about an extramarital affair is an impeachable offense.
12. A president lying to enlist support for a war in which thousands die is solid defense policy.
13. Government should limit itself to the powers named in the Constitution, which include banning gay marriages and censoring the Internet.
14. The public has a right to know about Hillary's cattle trades, but George Bush's driving record is none of our business.
15. Being a drug addict is a moral failing and a crime, unless you're a conservative radio host. Then it's an illness and you need our prayers for your recovery.
16. You support states' rights, which means Attorney General John Ashcroft can tell states what local voter initiatives they have theright to adopt.
17. What Bill Clinton did in the 1960s is of vital national interest(smoke pot), but what Bush did in the '80s is irrelevant (snort cokeand become an alcoholic).

Feel free to pass this on. Hell, I didn't write it, so what do I care?

My first blog post

Well it's the day after Thanksgiving, and the holiday season has started, and I'm broke as shit as usual. But I might get paid today, so that will solve a few things.

Thanksgiving was fun, if a little strange in its collection of people, and the food was spectacular (I've never had a whole yam with the skin on before...I was still disappointed that weren't any marshmallows though)

So I started this blog because chat rooms piss me off, usenet is dying, and I have a lot to say. Quite frankly, I don't care who reads this (if anyone), cuz I just want to babble.

As a wanna-be writer, I need to get into the discipline of writing something every day, and writing a journal seems to be a good way to get started.

So this is part one of today's blog so far...